I often forget these so here’s a record for myself:

  • Blame (or Criticism)
  • Defensiveness
  • Contempt
  • Stonewalling

The best way to manage the relationship toxins is to educate people about their effects, and then note them as they arise, without judgment or blame.

Further Reading

I was introduced to this concept by the very excellent coach Alfred DePew, I highly recommend him for his relationship and team coaching.